From Stormie Omartian’s book The Power of Prayer to Change Your Marriage:
Prayer for Breakthrough in Me:
Lord, help me to dwell on the good and the positive in my life and in my husband. I know that it is You who “looks deep inside people and searches through their thoughts” (Proverbs 20:27 NCV). Search the inner depths of my heart and expose anything that is not of You so I can be set free of it.
Lord, where I have directed anger toward my husband or held anger inside of me, I confess that as sin and ask You to forgive me and take all anger away. Heal any wounds that I have inflicted in him with my words. Help me to speak good words and healing to my husband, for I know that pleases You (Proverbs 15:23). Where I have shown anger toward any other family member, I confess it to You as sin. Bring Your restoration to every situation where it is needed.
Thank You, Lord, that You will redeem my soul in peace from the battle that is against me (Psalm 55:18). I believe that You, the God of peace, “will crush Satan” under my feet (Romans 16:20). Help me to live righteously because I know there is a connection between obedience to Your ways and peace (Psalm 85:10). Help me to “depart from evil and do good; seek peace and pursue it” (Psalm 34:14). Thank You that You will take away all anger in me and keep me in perfect peace, because my mind is fixed on You (Isaiah 26:3). In Jesus’ name I pray.
Prayer for Breakthrough in My Husband
Lord, I don’t ever want to feel that “my soul has dwelt too long with one who hates peace” (Psalm 120:6). Deliver me from anger in my husband. Your Word says, “A wholesome tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit” (Proverbs 15:4). Where I have ever felt that an angry spirit in my husband has hurt me or broken my spirit, I pray You would heal those wounds and take away any unforgiveness I have because of it.
I pray You would set my husband free from anger. Help him to recognize a spirit of anger rising up in him and reject it completely. Strengthen him to be able to control his mind and emotions and help him to remember that “we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers,” and the rulers of darkness and wickedness (Ephesians 6:12). Teach him to be slow to anger the way You are (James 1:19). Help him to understand that anger never produces spiritual fruit (James 1:20). I pray that all anger in my husband will be evaporated by the power of the Holy Spirit, and that he will have a strong desire to reject his carnal side and become spiritually minded. Let there be no reason to fear his anger and what he might do. Help me trust that “I will both lie down in peace and sleep; for You alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety” (Psalm 4:8).
I pray now that You, the God of all hope, will fill my husband with faith and hope by the power of the Holy Spirit (Romans 15:13). I pray You would lift up Your countenance upon him and give him Your peace (Numbers 6:26). I pray You would direct his heart “into the love of God and into the patience of Christ” (2 Thessalonians 3:5). Help him to flee anger and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, and gentleness (1 Timothy 6:11). In Jesus’ name I pray.