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Becoming the Wife Your Husband Needs

never doubt what one prayer can do

The following prayer, from Stormie Omartian’s book The Power of a Praying Wife, is essential┬áto any marriage. It lays the foundation of a praying wife humbly dedicated to being all she can be, trusting God to take charge of her husband’s formation. I can confidently say that my marriage would not be what it is without this prayer. We might very well not even be married anymore if it weren’t for this one.

Lord,

Help me to be a good wife. I fully realize that I don’t have what it takes to be one without Your help. Take my selfishness, impatience, and irritability and turn them into kindness, long-suffering, and the willingness to bear all thing. Take my old emotional habits, mindsets, automatic reactions, rude assumptions, and self-protective stance, and make me patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self-controlled. Take the hardness of my heart and break down the walls with Your battering ram of revelation. Give me a new heart and work in me Your love, peace, and joy (Galatians 5:22, 23). I am not able to rise above who I am at this moment. Only You can transform me.

Show me where there is sin in my heart, especially with regard to my husband. I confess the times I’ve been unloving, critical, angry, resentful, disrespectful, or unforgiving toward him. Help me to put aside any hurt, anger, or disappointment I feel and forgive him the way You do–totally and completely, no looking back. Make me a tool of reconciliation, peace, and healing in this marriage. Enable us to communicate well and rescue us from the threshold of separation where the realities of divorce begin.

Make me my husband’s helpmate, companion, champion, friend, and support. Help me to create a peaceful, restful, safe place for him to come home to. Teach me how to take care of myself and stay attractive to him. Grow me into a creative and confident woman who is rich in mind, soul, and spirit. Make me the kind of woman he can be proud to say is his wife.

I lay all my expectations at Your cross. I release my husband from the burden of fulfilling me in areas where I need to be looking to You. Help me to accept him the way he is and not try to change him. I realize that in some ways he may never change, but at the same time, I release him to change in ways I never thought he could. I leave any changing that needs to be done in Your hands, fully accepting that neither of us is perfect and never will be. Only You, Lord, are perfect and I look to You to perfect us.

Teach me how to pray for my husband and make my prayers a true language of love. Where love has died, create new love between us. Show me what unconditional love really is and how to communicate it in a way he can clearly perceive. Bring unity between us so that we can be in agreement about everything (Amos 3:3). May the God of patience and comfort grant us to be like-minded toward one another, according to Christ Jesus (Romans 15:5). Make us a team, not pursuing separate, competitive, or independent lives, but working together, overlooking each other’s faults and weaknesses for the greater good of the marriage. Help us to pursue the things which make for peace and the things by which one may edify another (Romans 14:19). may we be “perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment” (I Corinthians 1:10).

I pray that our commitment to You and to one another will grow stronger and more passionate every day. Enable him to be the head of the home as You made him to be, and show me how to support and respect him as he rises to that place of leadership. Help me to understand his dreams and see things from his perspective. Reveal to me what he wants and needs and show me potential problems before they arise. Breathe Your life into this marriage.

Make me a new person, Lord. Give me a fresh perspective, a positive outlook, and a renewed relationship with the man You’ve given me. Help me see him with new eyes, new appreciation, new love, new compassion, and new acceptance. Give my husband a new wife, and let it be me.

Amen!

(bold mine)

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If Anger, Rudeness or Abuse Poisons Your Marriage

From Stormie Omartian’s book The Power of Prayer to Change Your Marriage:

Prayer for Breakthrough in Me:

Lord, help me to dwell on the good and the positive in my life and in my husband. I know that it is You who “looks deep inside people and searches through their thoughts” (Proverbs 20:27 NCV). Search the inner depths of my heart and expose anything that is not of You so I can be set free of it.

Lord, where I have directed anger toward my husband or held anger inside of me, I confess that as sin and ask You to forgive me and take all anger away. Heal any wounds that I have inflicted in him with my words. Help me to speak good words and healing to my husband, for I know that pleases You (Proverbs 15:23). Where I have shown anger toward any other family member, I confess it to You as sin. Bring Your restoration to every situation where it is needed.

Thank You, Lord, that You will redeem my soul in peace from the battle that is against me (Psalm 55:18). I believe that You, the God of peace, “will crush Satan” under my feet (Romans 16:20). Help me to live righteously because I know there is a connection between obedience to Your ways and peace (Psalm 85:10). Help me to “depart from evil and do good; seek peace and pursue it” (Psalm 34:14). Thank You that You will take away all anger in me and keep me in perfect peace, because my mind is fixed on You (Isaiah 26:3). In Jesus’ name I pray.

Prayer for Breakthrough in My Husband

Lord, I don’t ever want to feel that “my soul has dwelt too long with one who hates peace” (Psalm 120:6). Deliver me from anger in my husband. Your Word says, “A wholesome tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit” (Proverbs 15:4). Where I have ever felt that an angry spirit in my husband has hurt me or broken my spirit, I pray You would heal those wounds and take away any unforgiveness I have because of it.

I pray You would set my husband free from anger. Help him to recognize a spirit of anger rising up in him and reject it completely. Strengthen him to be able to control his mind and emotions and help him to remember that “we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers,” and the rulers of darkness and wickedness (Ephesians 6:12). Teach him to be slow to anger the way You are (James 1:19). Help him to understand that anger never produces spiritual fruit (James 1:20). I pray that all anger in my husband will be evaporated by the power of the Holy Spirit, and that he will have a strong desire to reject his carnal side and become spiritually minded. Let there be no reason to fear his anger and what he might do. Help me trust that “I will both lie down in peace and sleep; for You alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety” (Psalm 4:8).

I pray now that You, the God of all hope, will fill my husband with faith and hope by the power of the Holy Spirit (Romans 15:13). I pray You would lift up Your countenance upon him and give him Your peace (Numbers 6:26). I pray You would direct his heart “into the love of God and into the patience of Christ” (2 Thessalonians 3:5). Help him to flee anger and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, and gentleness (1 Timothy 6:11). In Jesus’ name I pray.

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